Moving Forward

For at least the last 5 years I have had a theme song for my life, which was, How Did You Get Here, by Deborah Cox. This was my theme song because in so many instances I’d found myself in situations where I would be asking that question. Sometimes it was a relationship others a business decision or any other random thing that may have been going wrong.  It was rarely compared to any of the many successes that I’ve had.

In the last couple of months I’ve found that I haven’t been hearing that song in my head anymore.  The song that has taken its place is a gospel song called, Moving Forward.  The opening lyrics to the song are…

I’m not going back…I’m moving ahead…I’m here to declare to you…My past is over…In you…Things are made new…Surrender my life to Christ…I’m moving, moving forward…

Even though I’ve always been very vocal about my relationship with God and yes this song is a gospel song this song being the new theme song for my life has to do not only with my always growing relationship with God but it also has to do with my new mindset on life as a whole.

At some point there was a change in me on how I viewed my life, relationships and the situations I found myself in.  My entire perspective has become more positive.  I’ve always been the one to practice what I preached but honestly it is not always easy being positive especially in a life as risky as mine where I am always taking chances with entrepreneurship, following a childhood dream or putting my heart on the line in love.  Those risks can easily have you asking yourself, “How did you get here.”

Finally I am in a place where I can accept my journey and how I got to where I am today.  I realize that everything that I’ve been through was necessary for where I am now and especially for where I am going. I understand that having imperfections actually make you perfect.  The story of my life has become the foundation of my career as a writer and without that story then I have no idea where I would be today.  I’ve learned so much! I have grown so much and continue to make major strides to becoming the woman I see in my dreams and now I know like never before the only way I will ever look at her in the mirror is to continue Moving Forward no matter what life throws at me, I’m not going back, I’m moving ahead…I’m moving, moving forward!




Saturday – Off the Wagon

I’ve had a tough week recuperating from the show. Starting on Monday, I have to start back at day one. Back on my workouts, back on my eating right, back being focused–it’s like I’ve been on vacation. The toughest thing about taking a week to decompress, is getting back on the wagon.

Why is it so  easy to fall off the wagon but so hard to jump back on it.  I have to stay committed though. Luckily I have a great support system.  My wonderful cousins are in my corner like crazy.  Shout out to my bestie Tena, Ashley, Toya, and Dareena I love y’all.  We are gonna hit our goals.

2014 year of #transformation!

Super Bowl Sunday!!! (My Favorite Holiday)

Denver_BroncosToday is my favorite holiday!  Even though I had a disagreement with someone about today not being a holiday.  I won’t mention his name so that I can spare him the embarrassment since I thoroughly proved my point.  In my family it is tradition that on Super Bowl Sunday all of our friends and family gather at my FAVORITE Uncle/Father Robert’s house and we cook and we fellowship and enjoy the game on his 70 inch 3D flat screen media entertainment system.  It’s awesome!

Now if I recall this is exactly what happens on other named holidays i.e. Christmas, Thanksgiving and New Years just to name a few.  The great thing about Super Bowl Sunday is that at least the name is honest to what we are celebrating.  We are gathering together as a unit to watch the greatest game on earth.  Now Christmas is disguised as a day of giving when bratty kids just want gifts…and so on and so forth.  I digress.  My point is Super Bowl Sunday is in fact a holiday and I LOVE IT!

This year my beloved NY Giants will not be taking the field so I will be rooting for the Denver Broncos.  I usually go for the underdog but I loves me some Payton Manning (I worshiped him when he was with the Colts) and after that neck surgery I want him to overcome with a big victory.  Lets hope he finishes one of the greatest offensive seasons in NFL history with a humongous Super Bowl XLVIII Victory!



Some people say, anything worth having is worth waiting for.  I say, anything worth having is worth fighting for.  I’ve found that if you really want something in this life you have to be willing to go to battle for it.  You have to be willing to not sleep, not eat, not spend time with your family pretty much sacrifice everything for it.  Kanye West writes in one of his songs that before he made it he locked himself in the basement doing five beats a day for three summers.  That is a sacrifice.  Tyler Perry spent his life savings and slept in a car for two years, that’s a sacrifice.   The results of these two great men sacrifices was success beyond measure.  So much wealth that the sacrifice didn’t seem like it was too much to give up once on the other side of the rainbow.

Are you willing to do that?  Are you willing to go to war for the desires of your heart?

I am! This is sacrifice season and I am knee deep in my planting.