Happy Birthday Dr. King!


It is hard to imagine what life would be like had it not been for the sacrifices of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  Today, people around the world take time out to reflect on his life, his wisdom and his vision for a better future.

As a black person I will admit that I’ve always looked at Dr. King’s life and the Civil Rights Movement as a “black thing”.  I’ve always associated the Civil Rights Movement with the deaths of black men, women and children; and with the hardships and suffering that black people were subjected too.  I never took the time out to see the whole picture.  I sadly admit that it was not until I saw the movie Selma that my eyes were truly opened. For those of you who have not had a chance to see Selma I strongly encourage you to go out and see it.

As a writer I was thoroughly impressed by the screenplay – well done Paul Webb (apart from one scene that I felt was unnecessary towards the purpose of the movie) for the most part it was an excellent depiction of the factual events that occurred in Selma, AL  in 1965 and the outcome of those actions.  Without divulging all the details I will say that the movie showed that the Civil Rights Movement was not a “black thing” but the Civil Rights Moment was a “human thing”.

Dr. King’s dream was not a “black thing” it was a dream for all humanity that continues to change to world and inspire us today. I am so thankful for his life and commitment to our human rights. Had it not been for his vision and the sacrifices that he made I would not be able to live the life that I do. I would not be able to chase my dreams like I do. He is the face of not only the Civil Rights Movement but he is the face of the human life movement. Happy Birthday Dr. King may your legacy live on to encourage and inspire generations and generations forever.


Happy Birthday Gregory

Dear Greg,

I can’t believe it’s been 10 years that you’ve been gone.  Yet it seems like only yesterday that I got that call.  I still think about you all the time.  I wonder what your life would have been like.  I can’t even imagine how many more memories we would have made.  You were my best friend.  You wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve wished I could just pick up the phone and tell you about my day.  What I would do to hear your sweet voice of reason.  There was a time when you were the only person who could calm me down. You were the only one who I could vent too, the only one who understood me – or at least you made me believe you did.

Grandma and Grandpa are gone now too.  I know you all are together up in heaven.  Losing Grandma was excruciating. That loss totally took my breath away.  With you all gone the family is so different.  Each time we loss one of you a piece of our family was broken off.  I never knew we could be so distant when we all use to be so close.  Time has really taken a toll on us.  Life has hit us with some tough blows.  You all were like the glue that sealed us together, now we are all just floating a drift.  I know for sure I am not the same.

Your daughter has grown up so beautifully.  She looks just like you and Leslie. Don’t you worry she knows who you are. Ashley made sure of that.  I love her for not letting your memory fade.  The rest of us are ok.  I won’t dare complain to you because at least we still have our lives.  I struggle sometimes but I promise I am going to work my hardest to make the best out of this life for us.  I remember the dreams that we stayed up so many nights talking about.  I’m still chasing mine and as long as I have air in my lungs I promise you I won’t give up.  I’m doing this for us.

I love you even more today then I did 10 years ago.  You know they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.  I didn’t know it was possible for me to grow fonder of you.  You were already my favorite person in the world. I love you Gregory. I miss you and I wish you could be here with us, flashing your big smile and keeping the peace in the family.  I guess I will just have to take comfort in the fact that I know you are watching over me.  Now, I’m going to let you get back to dancing the night away with Grandma in celebration of your birthday. I’ll wait for you to visit me in my dreams.

Happy Birthday


My Puppy (Bear)

Bear wouldn’t sit down in the cart at Target he likes to see what’s going on.

Pop got me a puppy for Christmas!  I was trying my hardest not to be the cliché dog owner, who always talks about their dog, takes thousands of pictures of it and just flat out becomes obsessed…but I can’t help it.  I love, love, love my puppy!!

He is so adorable and his little face just melts my heart.  All I want to do is cuddle with him.  Yes, I cuddle with him.  He is so darn cute I can’t take it. Bear has such a personality too.  He’s sweet and loves people.  Yet he’s feisty and can be obnoxious at times.  He is a perfect combination – a dog made just for me.  He has totally stolen my heart.  So there, I got it out.  I’ve added a picture of him so he can steal your heart too.



Disclaimer: I wrote this in 2011 and I just found it again but it is still relevant.  I had to share it with you, hope you enjoy!

For My Girls…You Are Leaders In My World…

It is absolutely important that today you start to become the real you. You no longer have the luxury of being mediocre and great at times; the world needs you at your best. In order to become this Great woman that you are you have to stop being the person that you use to be. You can no longer carry around hurt and pain from the past. You can no longer blame your new spouse for your ex’s faults. You cannot be angry at your sister for that thing that happened that time. You can no longer be jealous, judgmental and confused. And you can’t be impatient with the car in front of you for going the speed limit because you decided to sleep that extra 10 minutes and now you are running late. We have to be bigger and better. The world needs us to be.

I for one have tried the relationship thing and failed miserably each time. I have mastered the smoking thing until it made me sick, I have been bad and ugly as it gets, said things that I wish I could take back…but I can’t. Now it is time for me to work on Beautiful and Great! In order to become the new me, I must start by forgiving the old me. I forgive her for those cruel, nasty, unladylike words she allowed to come out of her mouth at times. I forgive her for ignoring obvious warning signs, not paying attention to stop signs and wasting so much of my time. I forgive her for not always being honest with herself about herself and about the people she allowed in her life. I forgive her for not loving herself so much that love from anywhere else would just be bonus. Today I FORGIVE her.

Now, I must surround myself by only Good People, make sure I pray more, enjoy being outside in the beautiful weather as much as possible and inhale the fresh air. I am going to make sure I take care of my health so that I can age gracefully, peacefully. I will confront my issues right away so they don’t fester and build. I will be more generous and kind to strangers, greeting people with smiles and hello’s and understanding if they don’t return the gesture…because I’ve done that before. I must maintain a clear and focused mind so that I can hear God’s voice more so I will always know what move to make.

Don’t mess this up. This time it is too important. It is bigger than you or anything you have ever imagined. Stop living in this fantasy world of foolishness and dividing your greatness with moments of blissful pleasures and unnecessary distractions. Become the woman you’re destined to be in this reality. God has already written and planned you to be great! He is crying for your attention so that he can give you everything your heart desires. But if you keep asking for the wrong things and allowing yourself to be distracted by worldly things it will be hard for Him to give you what you really need (to those that much is given, much is required). To live out of this world you must really live out of this world, every single day. Your spirit is too powerful to be suppressed.

You have to change now. People are dying in massive amounts around the world from natural disasters, children are killing their parents, fish are washing up on the shores, and they are poisoning us through our food. We have to get strong. We are powerful women and it is time for us to tap into it like never before, stand together and change this world. Time is not waiting on you nor will it guarantee you another opportunity like this. Momentum is the hardest thing to get back. Pay attention to the lessons you’ve learned…they will guide you along this journey.


My Muse

– A woman, or a force personified as a woman, who is the source of inspiration for a creative artist.

With everything that has been going on in my life I have found myself struggling to write for pleasure.  I write everyday for business purposes but to just sit down and update my website or write in my journal I have been falling short – until now.  I found a muse.

My business partner Sheilarenee is my muse.  There is a magic that happens when I am with her.  It’s like creative ideas just start bursting out of me.  She even inspired me to write this because I hadn’t felt compelled to share in so long but I had to share this. She’s awesome!  It is really a blessing when you can talk with someone and you just bounce ideas off of each other; we practically complete each other’s sentences.  It is so great working with her. We sometimes are amazed by our own abilities when we are working on projects for Renee Shopping Services (RSS). We keep each other motivated and pushing forward.

As we break for the holiday I find myself excited to write again. I have some By Renee Visions projects that I need to complete before the New Year and thanks to her I have the motivation to do it now that RSS is all set. For the first time in a long time I feel completely balanced.  I am focused and diligently working towards my goals.  I can see a clear path in front of me; I am staying faithful and trusting what’s ahead as I follow it.  2015 is already set up and I am excited to see what God has in store. Especially now that I have my muse by my side there is no room for failure!