My mother had such high hopes for me I’m sure like all of our mothers did. She prayed for me, she expected me to go to school, get good grades, graduate and pursue higher education. She wanted me to chase my dreams, excel at my talents and be successful in all my endeavors. She wanted me to be happy, to fall in love, to make the right decisions and to trust God throughout my life and travels – she wanted nothing but the best for me.
My mother didn’t just want the best for me. She tried her hardest to set me up with the tools that I would need as I embarked on my life journey. She was always brutally honest with me. She listened to me and taught me how to be a woman. She took me to church and taught me the importance of prayer. She told me to respect myself, treat others how I would want to be treated, to be kind, love hard, to trust my instincts and to listen to my elders.
Will all of my mother’s hopes, prayers and wishes for my life and how I would lead it in the end I still did what I wanted to do. I chose promiscuity over virginity. I dropped out of college instead of getting my degree. I fell in love with the wrong guys put my faith in man instead of God and sold my self-respect to the highest bidder. I lived recklessly when there was no need to and I made mistakes that I am still paying for today. One’s that make me say, “I wish I’d listened to my mother.”
I find myself saying now I wish I had the brain that I have today when I was twenty-one. What I realize now is that I did, it was my mother’s brain. She had lived life and experienced hardships and pain. She had given me the knowledge that I needed to make wise decisions, to be successful at a young age. She instilled in me values of an old soul. I just didn’t listen. I took her advice for granted and chose to learn the hard way instead of trusting in the road already traveled I decided to go it alone.
This thing called life is not new. If you are blessed to have someone in your life that cares about you enough to be honest with you about life’s secrets believe me it is in your best interest to listen to them. For they are not telling you this to prove you wrong or to be mean or hurtful, they are telling you because they love you and it is that love that is going to save you. That wisdom is going to guide you, those tools are going to craft you into the person that God has put you here to be. Young people if you haven’t been listening to your mother think twice, read my story and listen to me because you don’t want to look back on your life one day and say, “only if I’d listened to my mother there’s no telling where I could be.