Love Is All We Have

Force your pride down to the floor, wrestle your ego down to the mat…and tell them that you love them.

-T.D. Jakes

I was watching T.D. Jakes 35th anniversary show on TV and he made a statement about the importance of telling the people in your life that you love them.  It really made me think because my family has been going through a lot lately with my grandmother being sick.  It seems like when it rains it pours and I swear it has been pouring for my family.

What’s really sad is that my family acts out the most in a time of tragedy.  Instead of everyone sticking together, being supportive and helping out one another they choose to argue and tear each other down.   I got a very negative phone call at six o’clock in the morning from one of my family members that through my whole day off and as much as I hate to admit it I found myself feeding right into the negativity.  I was not even angry I was more hurt of what had been said but it made me just want to distance myself from the situation.  The problem with that is if I distance myself from the situation then I will also be distancing myself from my grandmother and that’s just not an option right now.

So after all that I watched the T.D. Jakes celebration and he made the statement about forcing your pride aside and wrestling your ego down and just tell them that you love them and I felt myself gasp for breath.  I have to remember at the end of the day no matter how annoying my family can be they are still my family and unfortunately you can’t pick them.  I have to believe that all of this anger and animosity is coming from fear and frustration.  I have to focus on the great things about my family right now. I know that we all love each other.  We are a supportive family, an encouraging family and a very close-knit family that would do just about anything for one another.

I could psycho analyze this situation one hundred different ways but at the end of the day we are all in an extended grieving period right now. I just have to continue to pray for God to give us all strength and do the best I can to be supportive of my grandmother because she is the one who is hurting the most right now. Plus she raised us to love each other and that’s what I am going to do.  I am going to push my pride to the side, wrestle my ego down to the mat and love them with every ounce of love in my body. I’m just gonna love them.

XOXO